Originally Posted by
Smarie78 
I know for many this has gone on too long and I should be much further ahead than I am. But it's baby steps for me as I continue to heal. Please be patient.
We're not judging you, I promise. You are exactly where you need to be Smarie, don't ever question that. That's why we talk about "progress, not perfection"..... we ALL wander our paths differently.
I'm happy you are starting to separate yourself from your enmeshment with your qualifier; it's really the best way to gain clarity. And yes - when you change your dance steps, he'll see it as a threat and he'll likely try pushing at those new boundaries in every dramatic way possible. Be prepared!