Well, I wouldn't wait for the UNIVERSE to move you out of the way. That's putting something on the universe that you can do for yourself, right? I know you FEEL that you can't, but the reality is that you can--you still are not willing to.
I'm glad you're feeling stronger. I would just add one thing that sort of jumped out at me--your reference to your "little hope candle" being down to a "flicker."
I left my second husband almost 20 years ago. I still HOPE he gets well--that he chooses to live the end of his life, sober. I don't think that's real likely to happen, but I hope for his sake that it does. The thing is, I don't allow that HOPE to drive my bus. And my belief that it's highly unlikely he will get sober and my refusal to stick around waiting for the miracle have ZERO to do with whether the miracle happens for him.
I sometimes get the feeling that you believe your hope is all that keeps this man alive.
Keep working on loosening your fingers. Keep working on letting go.