PlentyGood, I do think you have come a long way and it is great you are setting strong boundaries. It is so emotionally draining and emotionally hurtful to be manipulated by an alcohol. It’s easy to understand the expression……….alcoholics don’t have relationships they take hostages.
We often become their emotional hostage because we love them and want what is best for them which causes us to entertain their phone calls, text messages, emails etc. because we feel this time may be the real time they really want help.
One of things that is said here on SR over and over again is………they can find recovery WITHOUT US that we are not the key to that door. They don’t recover because we drive them some place to seek help or walk them through the doors of a facility. They seek recovery because they WANT recovery, they want long term recovery not just the quick fix to get them through the pain of detox.
Maybe this time sit back and watch what kind of help did she actually end up getting for herself? Is she today receiving any recovery help or is she still in the wanting, seeking, talking about it and still no beds available kind of help?