Originally Posted by
Daucuscarota 
Thanks Dee. Yes, I am afraid that if I get involved with her again I will fall back into old unhealthy patterns.
I guess I was really asking if I have a right to put my sobriety first, before everything. You answered my question.
sobriety should be #1 priority.
"Is it possible to support her from a distance?"
you are allowed to have boundaries.
insane how when I had things happening in life when I was drinkin I got mad at people that walked away from me.
after I got sober I realized all I did to those people is look for a pity party and a drink. never did look to them for solutions. just wanted to "vent."
as long as im aware of what is going on, I don't fall back into my old habits. i have the ability to stop anything that is happening in my life that may cause that to happen