I've said it often around here, and also in my IRL situations - I am ruthless about who gets a seat at my table.
Absolutely no one- family, friend, anyone- who isn't supportive of my sobriety and trying to live their own best lives (whether alcoholics or not) gets my time or attention. Period.
To any lengths, at any costs- and I do many any. The ultimate example is that my soon-to-be-fiance (also in recovery) knows that it would be game over if he started drinking again - and he is absolutely the love of my life. Nothing, nothing, nothing comes before my physical and emotional sobriety.
I would listen to Dee and BB here - it may be hard at this time, but I don't believe I will ever regret the "safe" and self-care focused decisions I have made so far in my recovery. At 414 days, I am so content with my results. As I said in a meeting the other day- my selection process and admittance policy is stringent, and my life and social world is full.