My question is....how do we handle this?
I personally haven't expressed any anger or aggression towards him but have made it clear that I had a taste of some sane life and I will keep going forward, either with him sober or alone but going backwards to the insanity, the hurt, chaos and drama is no longer an option for me. I will no longer accept the unacceptable.
well either you mean it when you say you can't deal with him drinking or you don't.
he's drinking. even when given a fatal diagnosis he never fully seized recovery like a dying man would. he gutted it out and now with sober time under his belt and with a sober mind, chose to pick up. that is the insanity of addiction. a drink is worth the risk.
the merry go round is starting to spin faster and faster. might be best to get off now?