agreed........unless something has happened to you personally to warrant that. I "accept" that my son is in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist and toxic for him. I say "accept" because I have no choice............it is what it is.
That being said, she has done and said things to myself, my husband, and my son's 4 year old daughter that I cannot forgive and will not forget. Period. But that doesn't mean I don't accept my son. It just means that he has my unconditional love (different than unconditional respect, mind you), but she does not.