KM, I'm very sorry for the loss of your baby-to-be. I know, as women and as moms, we often feel we have to do and be everything for everyone. I lost myself in my family, believing that I was doing the right thing. The problem is, that when we give and we don't refill ourselves, we end up empty and lost.
I'm glad you are here and looking for support. I try to remember that I can control my reactions to things in my life, but that's all. I really have very little control and it was quite liberating to actually be able to 'let go'. You can do this!