zenchaser
The decision is made once and the beast is put on notice forever.
When the guy with tray comes around , the beast will see him coming and the AV will say 'ok time to make a decision' , but You have already made the decision , the negotiations are over for good, no matter what, the answer is No. The AV, by definition , will always operate under the guise that the decision is negotiable, that's what it does.
Make a Big Plan knowing full well that the AV will always consider it negotiable( that is what it does), but knowing full well also that a BP means the negotiations ended the second you made it.
I think your AV has you convinced that you are in store for a long tortuous future of multiple instances of hoping you make the right decision and act on it.
The BP cuts the legs off that 'argument' when you realize you need only make the decision once. The BP means the battes have come to an end, and You ended them. You get to decide IT never gets ITs precious stuff.
IT will always see the guy with the tray as an opening, but You get to say that the decision has been made.
When you have made a BP and try a shifting exercise the squirming is from IT , you don't squirm and hope to come out on the 'right' side of the arugment or debate, you go in on the right side of it.
Make a BP , right now , your Beast won't like it and your AV will still say it's up for debate, but that's just what t'they' do. No worries, your BP can more than handle it.