Originally Posted by
steve-in-kville 
Its no mystery why our spouses and/or families don't trust us, even long after we're sober. But how long did it take?
Even long after we're sober?
I have known ones sobering up (including myself) who think that
after a few months away from the drink
the family and world should give them a big teddy bear hug.
Truth is that by the time in which some drunks get sober
the family is well beyond the burned out point.
Ones thoughts regarding this question may change a little over time.
At 6 months sober -- the family may be encouraged.
At one year sober -- most families have relaxed into a sober lifestyle.
Five years sober -- some of the worse of the drunken past is forgotten.
For now the recovered drunk is putting family before themself.
This is something that doesn't come easy
for a self centered one who has always chosen booze over the family.
M-Bob