Gaining back trust?
This subject comes up here every so often, but I need some input on this: We all know the drill... we drank. We tried keeping it hidden. We lied to ourselves and those around us. Maybe we stopped. Maybe we relapsed. And we quit again.
Its no mystery why our spouses and/or families don't trust us, even long after we're sober. But how long did it take? When I sobered up, I didn't say anything. I didn't make any great proclamations. I just stopped. I figured my wife and family will figure it out on their own. "Don't tell me, show me" has always been how I lived. Talk is cheap.
Anyways, about a week ago, my wife made an "off" comment about my drinking, almost like she still thinks I am, or perhaps she thinks I'll be back on the bottle again soon. I didn't argue. Just shook the comment off. Healing takes time. But how long?
I'm not really sweating it, I know I really shook the confidence people had in me. I know this will take some time. Guess I just need some encouragement in this area.