Old 03-22-2017, 07:43 AM
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hopeful4
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I have an ex that does this too. He does not exercise his rights of visitation, but likes to say that I withhold it. He uses about 30% of his time that he could. He even tells my child that. However, in all honesty, I don't think he can hold himself together to have my child any more than he already does. He avoids issues at hand, constantly.

My child is ahead of this because she has been in counseling for a long period of time, and has a very good grasp of addiction and the behaviors that come with it. My recommendation is to get counseling for your child, with a counselor who is very familiar with addiction issues.

This will progress and that will help your child deal with having an addict parent, and all the hurt that comes with it.

Don't minimize the situation. Yes, there are people here going through worse. That does not mean that you and your child are not going through a serious situation that she needs help with.

Hugs to you. You are not alone.
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