Very sorry you are having to go through this MLO. His drinking is the problem, not you, and he will lie/cheat/steal basically do whatever he possibly can to keep drinking, including doing all those things to you. Addiction is a very, very selfish thing and it makes people put their drinking above and beyond anyting else - including the ones they love. He will say or do anything possible to keep drinking unfortunately.
I would seek help for yourself locally if you can, he won't until he's ready.