I haven't told kid about the financial troubles and the job problems because I really don't want kid to start thinking that it's one parent against the other one and kid has to take sides
It's difficult knowing how far to go in the honestly stakes. I made my kids aware that their dad was still drinking but they also saw it for themselves cos when they went round his place he had a fridge full and even bought it when one child was with him and they also saw him passed out drunk. I stopped the sleepovers but I am in the UK and I was happy to go to court if I had too. Child choice is much more taken into account here. They are older now....18 last December and still love him but don't have any respect for him whatsoever. Was that my fault for not protecting them from the truth? I don't think so. He is who he is and that is his choice. There is too much secrecy around alcoholism. It sound like your kid is aware and formulating their own ideas anyway.