if i were to have mailed a letter, it would have been because of fear and cowardice. believe me, there were moments when i wanted to do the letter thing instead of the face-to-face.
looking back i have no doubt that i would not have gotten the relief i did if i had attempted to make amends by mail.
in fact, it strikes me as close to "dumping" my stuff on someone without their permission.
they cannot, in fact, 'take it or leave it' easily, since it is thrust upon them.