Hey Miami I totally understand.
The answer, for me, is I did not learn the program within the fellowship. I learnt it in the "meeting after the meeting"...I found the right person (at a meeting) and asked him to show me the ropes. We went to meetings together, hung out in his kitchen together, and talked and talked and talked. He brought the Big Book to life for me by talking about his own experience of it.
This is how it should be done. The problem is some folks never get past going to meetings. Also there is no way of knowing you are asking the right person...or at least it's very hard to know who you need to speak to as someone new to meetings.
P