. You are so right about not being able to have a rational conversation with the A. I always felt like he was in his own little world that I was not a part of. He always told me I talked too much. It was always too early, too serious, not the right time, he needed to be in his own thoughts,,, etc etc. I actually accused him of being gay a few times. I felt he made his alcoholic friends and bar buddies more a part of his world and I could never compete with that. He laughed with them, had no problem texting or helping them when they wanted something done around his house. I always felt like if he could have had sex with them..... it would be the perfect relationship. Because he was never short of conversation with them,,, just me. How COME??!!!