Old 03-14-2017, 09:10 PM
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teatreeoil007
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I took note of this:

I grew up with extremely judgmental parents who questioned everything I did, even when I was an honor student and stayed out of trouble. I don't want to be like that

I'm sure you are not like that. And, I really really hate when parents are too critical of their good kids. I lucked out as far as my parents were not critical about scholastics. We did well enough, but there was not much pressure to do so and my parents did not make a big fuss about it. Now, when it came to handling a horse or picking the guitar, my dad was not always patient and at times critical. My mom had the patience of a saint when she taught us how to do stuff.

Sounds like you turned out alright though. But perhaps because of having critical parents you may be a bit of a people pleaser in some cases.

That whole thing with the escort gal: it reminds me of the complications that can arise when there is a love triangle. You wanted to save her. I get that. But, she is going to have to save herself. As long as she is dependent on men to save her, she may never untangle herself from her problems. She has to save herself. Drugs are not her only "dependency".

I totally get that whole "rescue" mentality, however. I'll tell you about a work situation I went through many many years ago. Worked with a man who was awesome at what he did, attractive, great personality. We had a good rappore. If I wanted to I could have got something going with him; I wasn't married at the time. He was. But I never let it get there and I'm so glad I didn't. One of my co-workers, however, and a friend of mine, did get involved with him. She felt sorry for him because he worked so dang hard and was stressed to the max and he started confiding in her about how his wife treated him, etc. She wanted to "help" him; save him from this beast of a wife he had who would call up at work and we could hear her screeching at him hysterically through the phone. She was a raging alcoholic. Well, they eventually started an affair. She was married too. His wife found out and tried to kill them both. She got tried and convicted for attempted murder. She didn't succeed in killing them, thank God, but it was dicey. I don't know how long the affair relationship continued-I know they both got divorces and were still together when I moved and I didn't stay in touch after that.
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