Rob, it sounds like your home circumstances aren't particularly conducive to stopping, but that's no excuse. I'm sorry that your mom is using - BUT you owe it to yourself and your son to stop. You can't help your mom, she'll stop if and when she's ready and I do hop she does.
But returning to you, Rob, you can stop now thereby give your son a better role-model than you received from your mom. Sorry if you find that offensive, but it's reality. Rob, please stand up and be the man that your son can be proud of. Hugs to you all
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