Sounds like Codependency. That's fairly common in alcoholics - I know lots of people in the rooms of AA who also use CoDa for that reason.
Have you seen this Humility Prayer? Why not just go along with your therapist for a bit and see what happens (you know that thing of thinking you know better than the person being paid to give their expert advice?... fairly common as well. It can be a real barrier to recovery.)
God. I pray for your helping in detaching from the desire of being:
admired, loved, praised, favoured, accepted, consulted, well known, and honoured.
I pray for your help in detaching from the fear of being:
Criticised, ridiculed, humiliated, falsely accused, persecuted, disbelieved, despised, and forgotten.
Please grant me the grace to desire that others may be :
Admired more than I, praised when I am unnoticed, chosen though I may be set aside, preferred to me, and increase in prominence though I remain hidden.
I pray that I will pause, and while I pause help me to remember to pray for guidance and grant me the humility to find willingness and discard willfulness.
Wishing you all the best for your recovery. BB