He then said he wanted to see if I do take any if I can send them to him b/c he is really missing the kids.....
Kind of like when they say they want to stop drinking but don’t take any actions for that outcome.
No different here, words that say he misses the kids but no actions on his part for a better outcome.
It's all I can do not to engage and tell him all of this, but it just starts fights and produces nothing.
Exactly!
I hate the anxiety feeling this gives. I am also having anxiety b/c Easter is next month and I an not sure how all of this will work. Sigh.....
How all what will work? So it’s Easter, how would that change anything about what is currently happening? Let it roll as it’s going to and stop trying to control the outcome for all of them. Control the outcome for you, no anxiety, his relationship with his children is exactly that HIS. At his own hands, all by himself as an adult man