Hi AL: Just so you know, you aren't alone in this. My SO has made similar accusations during my 15 months of sobriety. I, just like you, got a bit defensive. It's hard not to. We have worked very hard to get these months under our belt and it hurts when the person closest to us doesn't believe us. Nonetheless, I do strongly believe that our own truth is what matters most. Others are also right that we spent years deceiving our SO's and we need to be patient with them as we rebuild that trust. A calm, honest denial is probably best, although you and I both know that is a lot easier said than done. I'm glad you made this post! Good luck to you!