I echo Teettree's comments on being yourself.
I spent my younger years fitting in and trying to be someone I wasn't. This started me on my path to alcoholism. Drinking to be "cool". Well it stopped being cool for me a long time ago, but I didn't stop.
I learned that being yourself is the only way to really connect with people. If you are yourself you quickly find out who is for you, and don't waste years getting to the real you and her only to find out you don't like each other.
Be patient and be yourself and it will all work itself out.