I'm a woman and I can tell you that someone who tries to control me will find himself blocked.
I understand that may not be at all helpful, but no one wants to be pushed, so relaxing into it is really the only way. I once read, "If you are going to be with her you have to accept her as she is and if you are going to break up, there's no reason to point out her faults-according-to-you." I love that because it takes all the need for judging right out of it.
There is someone waiting for you.
