Welcome Brownstone,
I'm so sorry about your son.
We have a chat room, but there is no guarantee that family members will be chatting.
We do have a busy family substance abuse forum where you'll get lots of support. Start a new thread there and it should be really helpful. This forum is not as busy because it doesn't include spouses and partners.
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