I don't have to fight for his approval anymore and that I'm not married to an alcoholic anymore, as well.....But, yet, all the people pleasing and thinking that I'm not enough and that I'll never be enough for anyone still comes creeping back in.
I think it has more to do with learned behavior then it does the A’s in our life. Because as you are witnessing once they are no longer part of the equation the sum remains the same, those behaviors still exist.
The more we build our self-esteem and confidence the less we need others approval.