Gottalife and kevlarsjal...your posts are articulate and very powerful. This world needs thoughtful, smart, empathetic young people like you more than ever.
I'm approaching 60 and I don't have many regrets, but the single greatest regret I have is the decades I lived that were tainted by alcohol. They weren't terrible, because I was lucky. But they were certainly not optimal.
You two have the chance to have optimal lives. Not always easy, because life. But you can know that whatever comes you way, you will be at your peak ability...physically, mentally, and emotionally...to handle it.
I'm rooting for you!