what if..........you took all the useless wasted energy trying to MAKE someone love you who never will...........and poured that into your children so they knew that they were ALWAYS loved by you and ALWAYS first in your life..........and lived the happy life you COULD have???? what might life look like then?
i was an only child raised by a busy alcoholic mother......from the time i was....gosh 8??, her "boss" was coming by our place at night after we had dinner. and when he'd show up, i'd get sent to my room. night after night after night. turns out they were having an affair, altho not engaging in such while i was out of the room.........but he was married, a dozen kids (not kidding), president of the local bank, two terms as mayor.....small town - not exactly a secret.
she waited for that man til the day she died......i was 33. for 25 years of my life, i was SECOND PLACE. as an only child, that kinda stings, when you know you are in the way, inconvenient, not worthy, not important.
don't let that be your kids. please. PLEASE.