Hi Poppet, it's good to hear from you!
I am so glad to hear you are working on you and your codependency issues. That so good! So many times, the stronger we become, the less our partners like it, that's just the reality.
It does not sound like much has changed. She still sounds moody and not nice towards you, which is a shame because you deserve so much more. Keep working on you so you can recognize that friend.
Hugs.