Interesting perspective, jojay. I actually find myself having more trust in my own judgments and actions as a sober person. As a drinker, I couldn't really tell if/when I was going to 'flip out' and act all weird and irrational over some perceived slight.
Nowadays, I find myself being more assertive (I like your use of that word, Brenda) and trusting of myself because I can more clearly assess a certain situation and act accordingly.
Right after I quit drinking, I still had a few 'dry drunk' tendencies, but I think those have gotten fewer and farther between with sustained recovery.
ABW1