Originally Posted by MissPerfumado

I long ago stopped applying "criteria" on who I would date and now just go along with who I feel attracted to. Age really is just a number to me.

But the pattern in my relationships has not changed much (meet, ignore obstacle, have a great time, fall madly in love, continue to stubbornly ignore obstacle, start to hurt, recognise obstacle, belatedly realise obstacle is immovable, get heart broken, [drink too much], move on, get back into saddle and repeat).

The one common factor in all my relationships is me. So this is where I have to start if I want to break the pattern. The realisation I haven't wanted to face up to is that now is the best time to do the work, having embarked on the fundamental challenge of sobriety and recovery.