If someone is constantly praising you and bombarding you with declarations of love on a constant basis
one could STOP LISTENING. he isn't putting shackles around your ankles and forcing you to listen. you CHOOSE to keep listening. you CHOOSE not to change. you LET him "control" you by responding.
how do you bring the relationship back down to earth and its obvious flaws
you don't. it IS flawed, constructed of two unhealthy personalities who feed off of each other. and it will NEVER be a healthy, normal, constructive relationship. it will remain tainted and toxic.
you can make this all stop by simply saying NO.
but you won't.
why?