but what I am most curious about is the dual addiction, or more specifically, your relationship with the alcoholic in your life and if he/she ever seemed to exhibit addiction to you (the codie) while struggling with substance. I actually believe the alcoholic in my life is addicted to me and it is what helps him take his focus off of booze or other things.
I'm a recovering alcoholic (25 years) and I had a very unhealthy codependent relationship with another recovering alcoholic that resulted in enormous pain. All I can say is thank god for Alanon. Once I overheard a guy say: "I'm in so many 12 Step programs I'm surprised I only have two parents." It's more common than not.