Yup.
For a long time I would get a month or two sober and then life would come hurling at me and I would drink again.
Do you have a sponsor? Working the steps? Finding a sponsor and beginning the steps ASAP this time around is what saved my behind. Now, no matter what life throws at me, I don't have to drink over it.
I'm praying for you and your wife. Forgive yourself, call central service and see if they can have someone pick you up for a meeting.
big hugs to you.