Unfortunately, A's are often manipulative and just as often, liars. Not all, but most. Once he was sure you would no longer play his game, he's taken his ball and gone home-and is most likely looking for an easier co-dependent.
yup - talked to a friend today - apparently the boy's been calling her all the time, freaking out, etc. we had a long talk about boundaries and codependence. incidentally, this was one of the friends that wanted me to stay in touch with him, but she gets it.
when she was telling me everything he's been going through, i wanted to call him but went for a walk instead... i'm proud of me.
thanks for the advice, i really, really appreciate it... maybe i'll check out al-anon.