I'm sorry to hear that your Uncle passed
away from this disease that affects many
many folks today.
In recovery we learn that we have no
control on people places and things. I
had to learn about acceptance of them
just they way they are at any given moment.
I can explain and warn and try to control,
make folks listen, raise my voice, threaten,
what ever have you and it still wont control
the situation cause they are their own person
and no one can force them to listen or quit
if they don't want to. If they are not ready to.
All I am responsible for is my own recovery.
My own life and the outcome of it by applying
a program of recovery taught to me in my every
day affairs.
I tried for so many yrs to explain my addiction
and recovery to family who either have no addiction
problems themselves, not alcoholics, till I was
blue in the face and who was more stress out
in trying to make them understand? Me. Only
Me.
So when I got sick and tired of trying to explain
and trying to make them understand me, I quit
and accepted that they are who they are and I
have no place in trying to change who they are
and focus on just me, my recovery/sobriety.
Surrendering that fact has become a more
freeing experience and allows me to stay
serene and peaceful inside and out.
You can too.
