Cherry,
Sorry you are in this but thre are many here just like you. I have two boys in that age group struggling with the same doc . One who works the program and the other who thinks he knows better and can do it "his way" what I know is that it was so uncomfortable for me to walk into a room of strangers at a meeting and talk.. I kept going and never spoke cause all I did in the beginning was cry and listen. Eventually I got up the nerve and been at it for 2 years. not every meeting is good , gotta look around but don't give up It has helped me to survive this life. This forum also has saved me many times from myself as a mom of two addicts...............Stay strong, please keep coming back even to read and listen to the words