Update:
My husband stayed clean for a year. Then used again for 3 days.
Starting from day 1 again. It's been a tough year with ups and downs between us. My biggest issue is that he didn't address the emotional piece that leads to addiction, the lack of coping, lack of feeling fulfilled and always searching for more.
He seemed to do the right things in terms of accessing his NA supports but forgot to put his recovery first, didn't manage his stress, and now here we are.
I'm frustrated. And he's in his avoidant phase. He told me, owned up to his mistake within days, now he wants to move on forget it happened.
I'm working on telling him what I need in a way that he will understand.