Ann,
"....My son stole from us many times ....... and yet if anyone cheated him or stole from him, he was absolutely livid.
I'm not sure what makes your daughter or my son or other active addicts just not SEE how destructive their behavior is, even when it happens to them. God bless them all."
With 20/20 hindsight, I like to think that when my daughter was in active addiction -- her behavior was not really MY daughter, instead her behavoir was dictated by her disease. This belief gives rise to the expression, widely shared in Nar-Anon groups........
Love the addict, but hate the disease.
I also entertain the optimistic, or perhaps foolish, hope that some day she WILL see how destructive her behavior was -- this day may never come but it is nice to live and hope! Of course, the trick will be to avoid being disappointed if it never happens.
Keep coming back,
Jim