Originally Posted by
SparkleKitty 
Hm. I feel like there's a balance to be struck between yelling and screaming and shutting down completely.
It feels to me, in principle, that the way your family dealt with feelings was relatively healthy since no one stuffed anything, everyone felt heard, and resentments were not allowed to fester. I mean, INTENSE screaming and yelling doesn't feel as healthy, but as far as emotional management goes, it's not so bad!
Oh no! Im sorry to have not expressed this in my first rambling post. I DO express myself. Very calmly. I say things like this makes me feel like, I dont like it when x, y, z. I try to avoid the words ALWAYS and NEVER or you did this, you make me, etc.
I dont just run away but I like to have space once there has been a disagreement/fight/argument. I dont like to stew in it.