Thank you for the updare! I am glad that you stayed the course and are staying in CA. I did similar back in October.
Do not fall for his tactics. I, too, was worried about xabf self destructing after I left. He has not. I am not completely n/c, but I am not initiating any messages nor am I saying much to him when he messages me . I love him, but right now I am angry as hades at everything that he did and everything that I allowed him to do to to me.
I see some of his current behaviors and hear his quacks and, well, they are just stupid. It is a different perspective to detach and observe them from afar. It is not easy, but I am trying.
Do not look back. Go forward. Without him.