Originally Posted by
knowthetriggers 
I should add that we have a six year old who doesn't seem to know that anything is going on, and thinks Daddy hung the moon.
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I say this with deepest compassion, don't be fooled - your child has seen and probably heard more than you think. Six might be young to understand but they can still know something is not right.
For instance, my 10 year old does not quiet understand how alcohol is a disease but I caught her rummaging thru my husband's truck looking for bottles or empties and I realized she only learned that from watching ME!
Alanon, Codependent No More, Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage, develop a plan.
My daughter was not yet three when my mother caught her on the steps with her head in her hands. Why? "I'm worried about daddy."
I wasn't even aware yet of his alcoholism (we are divorced) but when I look back at the journals they did at ages 3 and 4, all the signs are there: pictures and dictated stories about being scared by daddy, acting out - the pattern was so clear once I finally understood what was happening. They knew and were impacted all along.