Detox is nothing tbh. My exah has had more detoxes than I can remember. He went to rehab for 3 months but he's still drinking.( I think cos we've not heard from him for a while but he was in November) ) I felt like you. I was numb. I went through the whole of his cpr in hospital twice in one weekend thing with my nurses detachment. Then I got angry. Really steaming mad , can't sleep angry and we split up. Too late for my kids childhood's tho. Protect them. Whatever else you decide, keep them safe and help your 16 year old come to terms with how it was and is . Get help for yourself and let your wife get on with her side of things.Plan b is a great idea too.