I voted no one. I do not believe in giving someone ultimatums and forcing them into life changing snap decisions.
I have no kids, but in my opinion their welfare should come first in any relationship because they do not have a choice. What they are raised with will forever imprint on them.
Marrying a normie for comfort and security may work for some people, but it did not work for me. There were never any feelings of passion on my end, only ones of friendship and a caring love. It did not work but for a couple of years. Not being true to myself ate away at me. With passion missing, the relationship did not grow, it broke.