I've destroyed relationships because of my secretive drinking as I'm sure many on here have.
The trouble with hiding it is they don't understand our horrible behaviour. The best thing I've done recently is come clean to everyone and my dr and believe me it's so much easier than hiding it. Drinking is exhausting!
Is it definitely over? If you seek help, come clean and agreed to do what it takes to get sober and be completely honest with her do you think she might relent?
Best wishes to you