I just wanted to acknowledge how great that it is that your daughter is expressing her needs, even if minimally. The fact that she mentions she's depressed and would prefer a female therapist is really self aware. At her age I was still hiding and ignoring my needs and feelings for the sake of my dysfunctional family, so it's really good that she's telling you these things. It took me years to realize I was depressed, so she's way ahead of things at 17. I would just arrange the therapist for her. It sounds like she knows what she wants.