Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. I will be sure to check it out, Anvil.
I do have a 'target' for my working of steps 4-7 right now.
I know I'm dealing with anger issues, mostly at myself. I've had a lot of talks with my son about what is going on with his dad and I'm so sorry that I didn't leave sooner, that I wasn't brave enough to branch out on my own, that I had allowed myself to become dependent on him and fearful.
I remember being young and full of hope and big dreams and having all kinds of confidence. I lost all of that slowly through my marriage to my XAH. I'm dealing with a lot of grief, anger, and just basically feeling agitated regarding all of this.