in how nice it was for BF to be kind. I told him--I think that's actually how people are supposed to behave. We spent years with someone who would judge, punish, and be angry--but you're SUPPOSED to make mistakes. And the natural human response should be concern and caring, not rage.
Reading this loud and clear. I've experienced several "ah-ha" moments recently. The more I focus on me, and the kiddos, and meet and hang out socially with healthy people, my eyes have been opened to how things are SUPPOSED to be. Great post.