We talked about our significant others in one of my threads and they were/are shockingly similar. Only difference was my not being married. I had to end things with mine, as she was becoming obviously threatened by my sobriety and 'our time together', not being drunk at a bar. I can relate so much to what you're going through and wish you the best. I'm sure my now EXAGF has been blackout drunk every night since our split. I just couldn't do it anymore out of fear I'd go right back to the same crap. I feel a lot better about my future without her too.