No question that it's a delicate and difficult situation to be in Doug, and glad you have no plans on continuing drinking.
In your initial post you mentioned you were given the number of someone who could sponsor you, who is going through the same thing with his wife. I'd suggest holding onto that number. Taking a break from AA doesn't mean you can't call someone in AA dealing with the same thing if things get worse at home or if you get temptations to go back to drinking eventually.